I have been a girlfriend. I have been married. I have been an ex girlfriend and an ex wife now. Personally, marriage is not for me and why, oh why, can’t we embrace that not every woman wants to be a wife or a mother? I will sit with my 3 cats and 2 dogs controlling the remote and sleeping on whatever side of the bed I want because I find peace in it! Life is far too short to spend being as miserable as I was!
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This felt so real, I’ve had those same thoughts, wondering if love missed me, and learning slowly that choosing myself is a kind of love too, thank you for saying it all so honestly, it really stayed with me,
This hit deep. This wasn’t just a personal essay, it was a truth serum with a mic drop. The clarity, the pain, the quiet triumph in your words? Whew. Thank you for giving voice to the kind of loneliness that doesn’t scream—but still lingers. You navigated it with raw grace and zero fluff. It’s not bitter, it’s just real. And that is powerful.
This was raw, powerful, and beautifully said. Thank you for turning the frustration so many feel into something affirming and hopeful. “Happily ever after does come even if the prince doesn’t”—great line :)
Everything you say here absolutely hits home.... and I've been single for a few years now, recovering from toxic love or self-inflicted abuse and finally enjoying myself, can do what I want, travel where I want, watch whatever movies I want, write on Substack till all hours of the night, not have to shave my legs etc. But what happens when the sexual urges pop up? When you cop feelings for someone and your body's pandora's box is opened up -Then doesn't it go far beyond societal views and pressures and everything you mention here...to just human nature? Just popping the cork to the conversation...
Absolutely, what you are discussing resonates so much. It took me a while to find the words, specially because I don’t feel like have enough ground to confidently talk about it. But i guess at times navigating this complex clashing feelings can feel a bit like walking on a slippery thread. The craving for intimacy, touch and emotional connection is loud, hungry and strong. I often times feel so starved of it, a craving for an unknown dish that keeps slipping from my fingers. But I don’t think that it cancels freedom or standards. It adds another layer of what it means to be human. We can want more for ourselves and still feel an ache for closeness so deep that it might drives us to throw everything out the window. It can bypass logic and ideals. It turns primal. Yet, i think the challenge is not to demonize it or succumb to a black and white perspective but more to be aware of the duality of things. You can hold two truths at once. I think cherishing the peace and freedom is more of a guide when all those urges appear. A way to determine if it is worth giving some of those things up and if what you have currently can provide the safe space you feel when you are on your own. But who knows, maybe i’m too used to being alone that it is easier to realize if a person might be worth losing what i so deeply cherish.
I have been a girlfriend. I have been married. I have been an ex girlfriend and an ex wife now. Personally, marriage is not for me and why, oh why, can’t we embrace that not every woman wants to be a wife or a mother? I will sit with my 3 cats and 2 dogs controlling the remote and sleeping on whatever side of the bed I want because I find peace in it! Life is far too short to spend being as miserable as I was!
exactly!!!
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Hi Maria Paula,
This felt so real, I’ve had those same thoughts, wondering if love missed me, and learning slowly that choosing myself is a kind of love too, thank you for saying it all so honestly, it really stayed with me,
in quiet strength and sound,
Afterforever ✨🎵
This hit deep. This wasn’t just a personal essay, it was a truth serum with a mic drop. The clarity, the pain, the quiet triumph in your words? Whew. Thank you for giving voice to the kind of loneliness that doesn’t scream—but still lingers. You navigated it with raw grace and zero fluff. It’s not bitter, it’s just real. And that is powerful.
More of this, please.
This was raw, powerful, and beautifully said. Thank you for turning the frustration so many feel into something affirming and hopeful. “Happily ever after does come even if the prince doesn’t”—great line :)
The popular girl archetype hit hard!
Everything you say here absolutely hits home.... and I've been single for a few years now, recovering from toxic love or self-inflicted abuse and finally enjoying myself, can do what I want, travel where I want, watch whatever movies I want, write on Substack till all hours of the night, not have to shave my legs etc. But what happens when the sexual urges pop up? When you cop feelings for someone and your body's pandora's box is opened up -Then doesn't it go far beyond societal views and pressures and everything you mention here...to just human nature? Just popping the cork to the conversation...
Absolutely, what you are discussing resonates so much. It took me a while to find the words, specially because I don’t feel like have enough ground to confidently talk about it. But i guess at times navigating this complex clashing feelings can feel a bit like walking on a slippery thread. The craving for intimacy, touch and emotional connection is loud, hungry and strong. I often times feel so starved of it, a craving for an unknown dish that keeps slipping from my fingers. But I don’t think that it cancels freedom or standards. It adds another layer of what it means to be human. We can want more for ourselves and still feel an ache for closeness so deep that it might drives us to throw everything out the window. It can bypass logic and ideals. It turns primal. Yet, i think the challenge is not to demonize it or succumb to a black and white perspective but more to be aware of the duality of things. You can hold two truths at once. I think cherishing the peace and freedom is more of a guide when all those urges appear. A way to determine if it is worth giving some of those things up and if what you have currently can provide the safe space you feel when you are on your own. But who knows, maybe i’m too used to being alone that it is easier to realize if a person might be worth losing what i so deeply cherish.
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Such an amazing perspective and point of view💗
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